Frequently Asked Questions
How do I arrange a session?
Upon receiving and reviewing your questionnaire, I will respond via email.
If I think we are possibly compatible, you may then call me (upon my instruction)
and we’ll have a brief discussion regarding a possible session. This phone interview usually takes a minimum of 10 minutes.
Please be ready to ask any questions or voice any concerns you might have at this time.
Here’s a tip: compiling a written outline prior to calling can be helpful, just in case you become overwhelmed by the sound of my voice and completely forget everything you meant to say. It happens frequently.
Also, be prepared to answer questions regarding your past BDSM experiences (professional & personal), your expectations regarding the session, your limits, etc.
If I don’t believe we are compatible, I will not hesitate to inform you of such. And if I do decline sessioning with you, please don’t call/email periodically to see if I’ve changed my mind. I do not "play hard to get" and the offer of cash and prizes will not influence my decision. Really, its better this way. Fly away, little bird; your destiny is elsewhere.
When are you available?
I am generally available from 11 am to 7 pm, 7 days a week.
I require 24 hours notice and at least one hour in between sessions for cleanup.
Please note that in order to flip ahead, you must be signed into a gmail account.
When is the best time to call you?
Between 9 am & 7 pm. If I don’t answer, I am either in session or in a situation/venue where I cannot speak freely. Please try again at a later time or send me a text and we can schedule a time to speak that works for both of us. Helpful tip: calling back every 15 minutes until I answer is a bad idea.
Do you see novices?
Yes. In fact, you could say that I specialize in novices due to the fact that I possess a very relaxed and reassuring manner which can put the most anxious and nervous of submissives at ease. However, if you’ve never had a session before, it’s a good idea to do your homework first. The internet can be a wonderful resource (obviously) and there have been many excellent books written on the subject.
Here are a few of my favorites …
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman
Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission by William & Gloria Brame
How much is a session?
My tribute is $300 per hour.
Do you offer a discount for multiple hours booked?
Do you require a deposit?
Yes. A deposit of $50 per hour booked is required for new clients and will be credited towards your tribute. Upon scheduling, I will send you an invoice.
I’ve watched some of your clips, and I want a session but I’ve seen what you’ve done to other people & I am afraid of you …
Please know that the intensity of the activities depicted on my clips4sale site is not representative of a typical session and, generally speaking, not suitable for the novice or inexperienced player, period. I’ve been playing with the subs in my clips for years and know exactly how much pain they enjoy. (The clip where I burn a cock cage on my sub with my cigarette so he won’t be able to masturbate until the scabs heal? That one was his idea.)
Ordinarily, when playing with a new sub or when introducing any unfamiliar type of play, I begin at the lightest possible end of the sensation spectrum and gradually work my way up, increasing the intensity in direct relation to your verbal and bodily responses.
If it’s obvious that you are not enjoying what I’m doing to you on some level, either because it’s too much sensation or not enough, I’m going to stop and try something else. I don’t derive gratification from hurting others; I obtain satisfaction from giving people something that they need but can’t readily find elsewhere and you certainly don’t need something that you don’t even want. As a wise pervert once said: “It’s not really torture until you want it to stop.” Hopefully, no matter what I do to you, we’ll never quite reach that point.
Is it possible to have a session that does not include pain or that only includes one activity, like foot worship?
Will I be able to shower after the session?
Absolutely. My bathroom is alway stocked with fresh towels, washcloths, shower gel, bar soap, baby wipes, mouthwash, & toothbrushes for your convenience. If you’d had a long drive or are OCD and would like to shower before the session, that’s fine too. Just ask.
Is there any type of play that you enjoy the most?
No, not really. Whatever it is that you enjoy the most, that what I want to do to you, but in a way that’s so surprising and effective you momentarily lose all awareness of time and space. I can’t lie though … hitting people that like being hit is a lot of fun.
What I don’t enjoy , however, is when someone says, “Let’s do a roleplay” but then has no suggestions or imput regarding theme or plot. You don’t have to write a script but you do need to give me something to work with. For example, “You’re my sexy aunt and you’re going to give me a spanking because I took your car without permission” or, “You’re my teacher and you caught me masturbating during class” or, “You’re my boss and you found porn on my computer.”
Will anyone else be there during the session?
We will be alone in the studio but there is always someone upstairs in case of emergency, a consideration that benefits your safety as much as mine. I once managed to give myself a serious concussion while cleaning the house, so me accidentally knocking myself unconscious while you’re in inescapable bondage is not outside the realm of possibility.
Can I bring my own toys?
Absolutely. Just be sure to put them in a nondescript bag that doesn't have "Adult Mart" or "Victoria's Secret" written on the side.
Should I do anything special in preparation for the session?
If I decide to session with you, you will receive preparation instructions along with the directions.
Can I arrive for the session wearing female clothing, make-up, fake breasts, nails, etc.
Absolutely not and failure to obey this rule will result in immediate & total banishment.
Furthermore, do not arrive at my studio carrying wrapped presents, gift bags, etc.
Does the session begin the moment I walk in the door?
No. Prior to the session we will spend some time talking as “regular” individuals (i.e. not as a Mistress and sub) during which we will discuss any relevant expectations, requests, concerns, restrictions, etc.
This interaction does not count as part of your session time.
What if I arrive early?
If I arrive early, should I call or text asking if I can come in?
NO! Didn’t I just tell you not to arrive early?
Do you session with females or couples?
All apologies but I do not.
Do you offer sessions with other dommes? Can I schedule a multiple-mistress session?
No, I do not.
Do you ever travel?
No, I do not.
After we've sessioned a time or two, is it alright if I call or text just to chat?
Unfortunately, you may not. My schedule is usually quite full & I'm seldom, if ever, just sitting around doing nothing.
Can I take you on a trip or to an event?
No, you may not. While I occasionally go out to dinner with regular clients after a session, such instances are at my discretion.
Will you cuddle or spoon me as part of "after care?"
No, I will not. I will get you water & a blanket and I will hold your hand or pat your back in you're in need of
physical human contact but that's the extent of my involvement.
Do you offer "overnight sessions?"
No, I do not.
Can you teach me about "the lifestyle?"
I cannot. My introduction to BDSM was on the professional side of things so my knowledge of the lifestyle is mainly hearsay.
Do you offer public play?
I do but only under limited circumstances & only with established clients.
Do you offer makeovers/transformations?
I will do my best but, honestly, in this particular area my best is mediocre.
Can I cum on your feet?
No, you may not. However, I will allow you to cum on my boots.
(You know what to do after that.)
What should I do if I run into you in public?
That's up to you. If I see you in public, I will never approach you but you're always welcome to come up to me and say hi.
How can I refrain from annoying you?
Now that is an excellent question! Do not contact me asking basic questions already answered on this site like, “How tall are you?”
“What kinds of things do you like to do?” or “Do you have a dungeon/studio?” If you do ask me a stupid question apropos of the aforementioned, I will assume that you either cannot read, are too lazy to read, or that you are contacting me with the sole intention of wasting my precious time while you beat off in your basement. In any case, I will end the conversation immediately and block your phone number & email address.
Additionally, do not ask me to define unfamiliar terms.
You should know what the acronym “CBT” stands for before attempting to
It’s called Google.